Do you think I’d make up a title like that?
So I call my self a cultural cross dresser, who favours the Asian fashion, sarees in particular. When I do venture out in a saree I get a lot of complements, I just wish my mum could hear them I’m sure she will suddenly find herself proud of her tom boy daughter all of a sudden and encourage the wearing. The odd thing is, if my mum was out and about and happened across a man in a dress, she would be singing his praises and be full of complements, of course, if he looked good!
Even though it is Friday, and we have Firangi Friday section, I just don’t feel comfortable putting her in that category, because she is more desi than many of the people from India with skin complexion darker by 10 shaded and people that are thousands of miles closer to Tirupati temple than she is.
Being Desi is not about where you are from, it is about attitude to life, shared values and shared sense of aesthetics.
You may wonder as to what is the shared sense of aesthetics do we have? I’ll give you an example, if you were to wear a bright red saree with bright green pleats and bright yellow pallu, shared sense of aesthetic will kick in and everybody from North India to South India would find it kind of odd combination. Now if somebody in Pakistan were to drape the same saree, it wouldn’t feel out of place.
So the statement that “something looks pretty” is not an absolute statement, it is not an statement of individual preference; it is a reflection of collective aesthetic that seeps in to us and shapes our brain that finds a particular thing pretty.
And why is it that we find a woman wearing a man’s clothes sexy and man wearing women’s clothes a misfit?! Yup, our shared sense of aesthetics. It wasn’t too long ago that man and women wore similar clothes.
Any way, the image that I liked the most from Shwetica is:
Nice! Love it!
Thank god she is not in a saree closet anymore!
Check out her blog, say hi to her, especially if you are cultural cross dresser.